Saturday, January 16, 2010

A friend I need.

I live in a town where I have very few friends. Is it me? I really don't know. Both Cole and myself find it extremely hard to get and maintain friendships in this town. We continually invite people over and sometimes they come sometimes we don't even get a response.

Two of the closest friendships I had here basically ended. One woman I was friends with for 8 years and helped her deal during a bad time only to have her move and she didn't even tell me. The other friend got a new guy and though we used to talk every night prior to him now she might call every three weeks.

I feel like I'm funny, giving, etc but I don't know what is up with this. My friends from my hometown can't figure it out when I tell them but this town is very clicky I guess. I recently started making a few friends and now I made a few more at work on my new schedule.

I often feel that if my blogger friends lived closer we would be actual real life friends, I'm so open to my blogger friends and never feel judged and that makes for the best friends.

I guess I just sort of feel down right now. Cole is doing a job he does once a month and then I'll spend the whole day tomorrow by myself while he sleeps to prepare to work tomorrow night. Most days I enjoy my alone time but I think sometimes its hard. On the bright side we are hoping that Cole will soon get a day shift too-It would be so amazing.

Last night we went out to dinner and to the movie "The Lovely Bones" it was amazing. Before the movie we went to Chapters too and I read a bit of the book The end of overeating. Seems like a good read. Usually I'm prowling around for things to read but with my new morning shift my reading material is stacking up since I pass right out at bedtime-I'm not complaining though.

I've been nominated by Loriann from Amazon Runner for an award and part of it was to state 10 things that make you happy. There is one major thing I am happy about right now and that is that my company donated a little over a million dollars to the people of Haiti. Those people are in my prayers and I pray that the money goes where it is needed most.


  1. Hi Candace, thanks for your sweet note on my blog :)

    I wanted to email you but noticed you don't have your email address on your blog, if you want to email me you can reach me at bookenz at gmail dot com.

    I only just realised you live in Canada, for some reason I thought you were in the States and on the west coast, isn't that funny that I never looked before?

  2. I don't have many friends either. My college friends are too busy drinking, and it's so hard to coordinate hanging out. I can't be spontaneous and meet for lunch at the last minute with the baby, and I don't want to party. I feel bad for my son because I don't have more mommy friends, but it is what it is. Anyway, I know how you feel.

    How was The Lovely Bones? I won that as a book on tape a few months ago but haven't listened to it because I don't have a CD player. Let me know what you thought!

    The overeating book sounds good.

  3. I can relate to you! I moved to AB from BC in 2000 and I have 2 friends. I made friends, but they always come and go. My BFF is still in BC and I only see her once a year if lucky. I now live outside Calgary and have no friends here in this city. It's hard to meet new people. Everyone has there own clique already. I wished we lived closer! If your ever on a road trip you know where to find me ;)

  4. I can relate! Where my family lives in Ireland I rarely go out with friends, and when I do it is never much fun. I prefer my college friends, but unfortunately they live far away during the summers, etc. And when we graduate from college... That will be very hard. But trust me, you ARE funny, caring and giving, and you will find your "people" in your town soon. Stay strong!

  5. Wow guys thanks so much-it really is nice to know that I'm not the only one going through this too-not in a misery loves company kinda way-haha.

  6. I think it's hard to make friends when much of your day is spent at work. I don't get that people turn down or ignore invitations to your home. That's one of the most generous things you can do ... open your home to someone.

    You know that there are other couples out there wishing they had more friends. I'm sure your paths will cross and your social life will be buzzing!

  7. I feel the same way about my blog buddies. =)